FIND YOUR RHYTHM.
From the beat of your heart to the routine of your day, life is filled with rhythm. It can be halting and haphazard, or it can be purposeful and forward-moving. I find the practice of rhythm, both in music and in life, to be a beautiful metaphor for finding proper alignment between desires and actions. Finding your rhythm of life and moving through it at your proper tempo is what inspires me to offer my unique services.
Who am I? I'm a social worker, a father, a guide, a mentor, and a musician and percussionist. I have 25 years of experience helping people change. I'm also just an average guy who figured things out, with the help of some self-searching and some wise teachers who challenged and inspired me.
Rhythm will be our metaphor for a life lived purposely and passionately, a perfect balance between inspiration and perspiration, pleasure and self-mastery. We will begin with a free 30-minute consultation where you will explain your biggest challenges and those obstacles that have hindered you. Together, we'll discover those elements of your life that are not working in proper time with the rest of you. Then we'll develop a plan for bringing everything together into balance. Whether you're actively dating, looking to deepen or solve problems in your current relationship, or feeling stuck in your career and looking to move forward, we'll come up with a plan for finding creative solutions and a rhythm of life that works for you.
"The core of your life is your purpose. Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world."
-- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
There are tricks to getting motivated and staying motivated. First and foremost is showing up regularly and putting in the footwork, over and over, and creating conditions in your life that make commitment easier, rather than harder. Together, you and I will create a plan of action that minimizes the distractions, that holds space for reasonable interruptions, but that creates conditions and circumstances that will help you get things done. Here's a look at what worked for me.
"All of a sudden, the books are getting read, the meditation gets done, the sunrise is appreciated. The fulfillment you experience more than makes up for any sleep you miss out on."
-- Richard Carlson, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Looking at your morning routine may be the most powerful way for us to begin our work together. What would you do with an extra hour in your day? Two hours? By reducing the number of decisions you need to make in the morning, you'll be able to free up both time and energy to focus on activities that will deepen or broaden your interests. Do you want to find a new job, practice a musical instrument, learn a new language? Many things are possible.
SHARE THE JOURNEY
Moving towards your goals shouldn't be a solo adventure. The importance of a community of like-minded people is almost impossible to overstate. In my experience, the three greatest benefits to sharing the self-change journey with others are 1) accountability, 2) knowledge-sharing, and 3) playfulness. As part of our work together, I'll invite you into a discussion of how to make good use of existing social circles, form new ones, and use both to make reaching your goals both easier and more enjoyable.
In the beginning, even before the Word, was rhythm. The heartbeat and blood flowed throughout our bodies. Things revolve throughout the cosmos in constant motion. Everything is in movement and we, individually and collectively, are part of that movement.
Wayne Kritsberg, John Lee, & Shepherd Bliss, A Quiet Strength
Jeffrey Zeth, LMSW
"People want more than just to correct their weaknesses. They want lives imbued with meaning, and not just to fidget until they die."
-- Martin Seligman, Positive Psychology
We'll use some of the best tools I know to help you find where your strengths lie, and then to help you play to those strengths. Next, we'll create a plan together to help you apply those strengths on a regular basis. As with everything I do, the emphasis will be on starting with something to which you can commit to daily, weekly, and monthly, and adding and expanding your horizons from there. What may start as a 5-minute home yoga routine will eventually become 20 minutes. 20 minutes eventually becomes an hour. After six weeks of daily practice, you're doing things you may have never thought possible.
If you've done traditional psychotherapy, chances are you might not know what makes you strong, or might not know how to apply it. You'll be given the tools to describe your own strengths precisely and eloquently. We'll create plans using SMART goals (specific, measurable, action-oriented, realistic, and time-limited) to reach, first modest goals, and then much bigger ones.
On an early morning I think I shall live forever!
I am wrapped in my joyful flesh,
As the grass is wrapped in its clouds of green.
Robert Bly, Poem in Three Parts
That which is below is like that which is above, and that which is above is like that which is below, to do the miracles of the One Thing.
Hermes Trismegistus, The Emerald Tablet
Be responsible for your breathing, your posture, your thoughts, and your speech, artfully opening those who float in this moment of appearance with you.
David Deida, Instant Enlightenment
You say nothing is created new? Potter, go to your shed.
Make your cup, and don't worry
if you aren't able to make clay.
Antonio Machado, Moral Proverbs and Folks Songs